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Body dysmorphia - How do you see yourself?

Kshitij roy
Kshitij roy
Body dysmorphia:

Many of us take up fitness because we get tired of seeing ourselves the way we are, and we want to be better. It can be a right trigger and motivational factor for goal setting and taking initiatives to be fitter and better. But many times, it turns into an obsessive idea of 'not being good enough' and can cause severe self-esteem issues as well. In clinical terms, this obsession of 'appearance being severely flawed' is coined as 'Body dysmorphia'.
The image in the mirror and the way you perceive it can be totally different.

Why does it happen?

Societal conditioning which stresses on achieving perfection. Or social media, where you see influencers flaunting their near-perfect body, and you end up feeling low about yourself. See, these things are not wrong if they propel you to get better. But the question is, while you are at it, do you treat yourself with kindness and acceptance? With due credit and positivity? In my opinion, your body might need to change, and a fit lifestyle is a sane thing to adopt. Still, the mindset and self-body image need to be more positive. Else, even if you get to be the fittest version of yourself, the constant negative self-talk will keep you the 'same old ugly' person at your core. Your life will revolve around continual validation and approval even from your own self. And, that is not the right place to be in.

How can we address it?

* Try silencing your inner critique once in a while: Introspection is good. Taking measures to be better is good. But always putting yourself down, not so much! Try coming up with questions in the moments of such criticism. Questions like, 'Is it the absolute truth about me?'. 'Can I be more grateful for what I have rather than worry about what I don't?' 'Can I turn it around, by being more kind to myself?' 'Do I need acceptance from others or just my own acceptance is good enough?'

* Try taking your side, like a best friend would do: We can all be nasty and judgmental when it comes to pointing flaws in ourselves. We say things that we wouldn't say to even our foes. But can we be our biggest fan? Can we be a friend to ourselves? Of course, yes! Next time, when you end up in a mental situation like this, try being a best friend to yourself. Compassionate, kind, full of love and acceptance. Imagine how you console a friend when he/she is going through self-doubts. Do it every-time you feel like this, till the point it becomes a reflex.

* Try positive affirmations, but not vague ones: If you are poor, and repeat affirmations like, 'I am wealthy', it won't work. The mind cannot be fooled without legitimate reasoning or proof. It will just create more resistance towards the condition and negativity will only multiply. Instead, try affirming believable truths that your mind can register logically. It's better to work towards it step by step. For e.g. >> I accept the current situation and I am working towards making it better >> I am happy that I am aware and determined to turn my life around >> I love the fact that I am so consistent with the process >> I love the fact that I become whole with the world when I feel physically fit >> I am enough and I keep getting better…You get the drift right? Slowly, reach there!

I understand that all of it might sound esoteric and preachy. Still, the truth is, wellness is not just about the physical aspect. Self-care applies to mental and emotional dimensions as well. We cannot deny these parts of ourselves. So, I urge you, people, to have a moment and think about it. Chasing perfection could be useful, but it can also be done in a way that doesn't hamper your self-belief.

Thank you!🙂🤟